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The Path to Successful Relationships

The Path to Successful Relationships

Book Contents

• Introduction 8
• About the author 10
• Pillars of relationships  11
• Chapter 1  12
• Relationship with the Self  12
• Beware of minor and major sins  12
• Beware of the fitnah (temptation) of wealth 12
• Choosing righteous companions  13
• Temptation to show off 13
• Control your anger  13
• Humble yourself  14
• Watch out for Hasad (Envy)  14
• Be Generous  15
• CHAPTER 2  16
• Relationship with Allah 16
• Offer five obligatory prayers promptly  16
• Pray 12 Sunnah prayers 17
• Pray tahajjud prayer 17
• Make dhikr constantly 17
• Seek forgiveness 100 times a day  18
• Thank Allah 19
• Make dua 20
• Tell Allah that you love Him  20
• Enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil 21
• Give charity for the sake of Allah  21
• Place Your Need before Allah, Not Men  22
• CHAPTER 3  23
• Relationship with Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu alaihe wasallam 23
• Follow the authentic Sunnah and stay away from bidah 23
• Obey him  24
• Send salawat and Salam upon him especially on Fridays This will increase our blessings from Allah  24
• Make dua for him  24
• Love him more than you love yourself, your family, and your wealth  25
• Show respect for the Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam and for his Sunnah  25
• Defend our Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam and promote his good name 25
• Read the biography of Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam from authentic sources and benefit from the many lessons that they contain  25
• Learn the Sunnah by studying its sources We must study the hadith and strive to understand them correctly 26 Follow the Sunnah in its entirety, giving priority to what we are obliged to do  26
• Dislike the actions of those who defame the Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam or disapprove of his Sunnah 26
• CHAPTER 4  28
• Relationship with the Qur’an  28
• Learn to read Qur’an with tajweed 29
• Recite the Quran every day 29
• Read the Quran’s translation and explanations and ponder upon it 30
• Act upon the Quran’s teachings 30
• Teach others 30
• CHAPTER 5  32
• Relationship with the Wealth 32
• Seek forgiveness for increase in wealth 33
• Give sadaqah whilst you are in good health  33
• Spend on your husband if he is in need  34
• Allah is Good and accepts nothing but that which is good  34
• Ongoing Charity 34
• Charity from your husband’s wealth 35
• Use kind words if you don’t have money to help others  35
• Do not follow up your spending with reminders  36
• Giving charity increase the wealth 36
• Do not take anything from your husband’s wealth without his permission 37
• Spend on your parents if they are poor and your are rich 37
• Being dutiful includes spending on them if they are in need  38
• Relationship with the World Around You  39
• CHAPTER 6  41
• Relationship with the Parents  41
• Call them often if they live far away or visit them if they live close by  42
• Take care of their needs 42
• Be gentle with them  42
• Be patient over things which you may dislike 42
• CHAPTER 7  44
• Relationship with the Husband  44
• Be thankful to him 44
• Support him in his decisions Don’t go against his decisions, if you dislike something, talk to him gently when his is in a good mood and give him reasons for your opinion  45

• Take care of him  45
• Don’t complain about his shortfalls to his family or to your family members  45
• Don’t argue with him when he is angry  46
• Be sensible what you spend from his earnings  46
• Don’t ask him for more than he can afford 46
• Don’t complain to him about his parents or his family 47
• Don’t say no when he wants to intimate with you unless you’ve a reason to say so  
• CHAPTER 8  48
• Relationship with the Children 48
• Teach them about Islam 48
• Teach them to pray  48
• Instil the love of Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam and teach them to read Qur’an with tajweed 49
• Give them an Islamic environment  49
• Teach them to take care of needy  49
• Dress them according to Islamic ruling  50
• Develop the love for Allah and Prophet Sallallahu alaihe wasallam in their hearts  
• Teach them to thank Allah for the blessings 51
• Love them, hug them, and kiss them frequently  51
• Treat all your children equally 51
• Reward them for their good actions and appreciate them  51
• Teach them to select good friends for themselves 52
• CHAPTER 9  53
• Relationship with Relatives  53
• Be kind to them and treat them respectfully 53
• Don’t compete with them  53
• Stay away from conflicts  54
• Always stand by their side when they are in need  54
• Visit them often and call them over to your house and give them gifts  54
• If you get in fight with them be the first one to give them salaam and don’t cut off your relationship for more than three days  55
• CONCLUSION  56